Mindset is a cumulative way of thinking that affects how you behave and react to a situation. If you will change your life and make measurable progress, you have to create a new mindset. A regretful mindset will never see the possibility of something good or new ahead. It is true you want to forge a new life and a new future for yourself, but there will never be a new life if there is no new you.
How to Develop a New Mindset
How then can you develop a new you? It is simple, you need a new mindset. The moment you begin to see your ex as one of the many experiences of your past, then you have just stepped into something new.
The mindset of comparing someone else with your ex draws you back to begin to see him or her as being part of your present life. Stop thinking over split milk. Once he is gone, let him go off your consciousness forever. Whatever old thing you want to change, dispose of it and not hide it where you will one day go pull it out.
A new mindset does not come without emptying your mind of the old. No matter what you used to know about your ex and how loving and caring the person has been to you, now that you want to forget his memory, you do not have to mesmerize about his quality and keep a mental picture of him. The past is gone and it should be forgotten.
Now, think about it for a second. At this moment, the most important person in your life is you. Let the thought of the new you fill your heart. Think of how you can make judicious use of the present moment to secure a glorious future for yourself. What is behind you and what is in front of you is not as important as what is within you.
Resident within you are talents untapped, skills you are yet to develop, and gifts yet to explore. Think of how you can be better than who you used to be or where you have been with your ex. Learn to see new possibilities and strive to do more than before. You will discover new things about yourself when you learn to think alone.
The Power of Solitary in Developing a New Mindset
Many people who rise to fame and stardom today are people who appreciate the power of solitary. You know yourself more, when you continuously reflect on who you are and what you are meant to be in life. Let the searchlight of your thinking be towards yourself and what you can do with your life. Avoid thinking about what had happened in your past or what ought to happen if you had not said this or done that. Such a mindset keeps you in regret and doubt of not forgetting your ex.
Whatever happened is not as important as what you make of the incidence.
You have two options; either to keep thinking of the man in the past and hurt your feelings or throw every thought of him in the trash and focus on your life. However, I will advise you to choose the latter because of your future.
No matter how many great memories you have had with your ex, they cannot be compared to the beautiful future ahead of you. Your future is the mental image of the new you. You cannot become a new person without a new thinking pattern.
Below are some tips on how to develop a new mindset for your life and your future;
- Disconnect yourself from the mistake of your past
- Challenge yourself
- Celebrate little wins
- Focus on Changing
- Avoid Stagnation
- Develop new habits that support your new mindset
1. Disconnect yourself from the mistake of your past
Most people consider their past as the best because of its sweet experience, which they believe they can’t get any more forever. It will interest you to know that it is wrong to believe those thoughts of no better man than your ex or no better experience than your past.
Surprisingly, a beautiful past is a taste that a glorious future lies ahead of you. Don’t take your past too seriously that you forget you have a future.
Also, realize that whatever you want to forget in your past, you do not have to keep it with you. Remove anything that keeps you connected to your ex, including soul ties. When you disconnect yourself from your past, you will soon realize that life is not defined by any experience. Life is defined by what you choose. It is a matter of choice.
2. Challenge yourself
Challenges are the springboard to success in life. They are life problems in the guise of opportunity. If you want to develop a new mindset, you need to set a new course for your life. Set daily goals for yourself and be specific about them. Know what you want and go after it tenaciously. For instance, you may have made sales in your business last month, but challenge yourself to double it this month. Come up with winning strategies and do more than you have done before.
In summary, engage your mind in creative and productive thinking and soon, you will forget what a man did to you that hurt you. In fact, you will soon realize that what you are now is better than where you were then.
3. Celebrate little wins
Even after you have challenged yourself, get engaged in doing things that bring you closer to your goals. Once you hit a milestone, no matter how small, appreciate your effort. Learn to appreciate who you are and what you do. Whatever you can achieve for yourself is worth celebrating.
4. Focus on Changing
Change is the only permanent thing in life. Everything changes. The trees changes in seasons. You also can change. The purpose of the change is an adaptive mechanism to enable us to thrive and survive in the current atmosphere of our life. However, your change is not to be hard or bitter on yourself but to become better, someone with great virtues, strength, tenacity and confidence. Think about turning your weakness into strength and your strength into a powerful force for your new life.
5. Avoid Stagnation
Sadly, many have allowed limiting thoughts in their mind after a breakup. As such, this kind of thinking keeps them where they are. However, you can choose to outgrow your past and create a new path for your future. Do not hold yourself back with your thinking. There are limitless possibilities and countless opportunities set before you if only you can allow your mind to explore them.
6. Develop new habits that support your new mindset
Our thoughts become actions and continuous actions develop into habits. If you want to see new habits, think new thoughts. Your thought pattern reshapes your behavior and causes you to see and do things differently. Develop new habits that focus on personal growth, skill acquisition, business growth, and how to go higher in your field of expertise. A great life begins with great thought. Think greatness; you will be great.
Now that you have developed a new mindset, it must begin to show in your daily life. There will never be a new YOU without a new THINKING. Therefore, to change your life, you need to change your thinking.
Lastly, open your heart to love again. One person can be the yardstick to measure all humans. There are still good and amazing people out there. First, be one and you will attract your kind. We hope these mindset changes will bring you the result you want in your life. Kindly share your experience with us in the comment section below.